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I am beyond vexed that the lottery has not made me a winner. I am not greedy for millions ~my needs are simple: good books, better wine, and a new vehicle.

Thursday, April 17, 2008

Time off....not really

As I was laying in bed this morning I realized that if given the choice between stopping work for the summer or stopping the Eldercare for the summer, I'd choose to continue to work. That speaks volumes on how much I need a break from my mother and her issues. Work has morphed into an escape. As of Saturday I will be available to her whenever she needs something. In the past I have longed for the end of the ski season. For my free time. But that time is no longer mine. I desperately need to take care of myself. Being the "sandwich" generation sucks.

1 comment:

Carol D. O'Dell said...

Hi there,
From my experience, mom will do better in her consistent environment. Don't feel guilty. You're still caring for her (worrying, checking on her) by providing her a safe environment.

I cared for my mom full-time for close to three years. I know the toll it takes. I also know that by taking care of myself (the few times I did), I was a better daughter, mother, wife, and human.

Admitting you need and deserve a break is healthy!

~Carol D. O'Dell
Author of Motheirng Mother: A Daughter's Humorous and Heartbreaking Memoir